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Published: 2nd Nov 2014 - Updated: 30th Oct 2022
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Summary: Information and instructions for performing sex in several position variations to spice up your sex life.
A sex position is a position of the body that people use for sexual intercourse or other sexual activities. A standard sex position is the missionary position, or man-on-top position, a sex position in which, generally, a woman lies on her back, and a man lies on top of her. At the same time, they face each other and engage in vaginal intercourse. Sexual acts are generally described by the positions the participants adopt to perform those acts. Though sexual intercourse typically involves penetration of one person's body by another, sex positions commonly involve penetrative or non-penetrative sexual activities.
Routine, boredom, and a million other things that get in the way tend to make sex repetitive and unexciting after a while. It's not that the two lovers plan things this way, but rather that life tends to dampen enthusiasm in the long run. Using the same positions every time and building up an unshakable routine doesn't help either. I'm not sure why some people think doing the same thing repeatedly is a good idea, but they are wrong. Everybody needs a little variation in life, including in the bedroom department.
Many factors get in the way of most couples to make sex less exciting as time goes by. Using the same positions every time and building up an unshakable routine sometimes becomes tiring. Because life tends to dampen enthusiasm in the long run, it is a good idea that couples should try some new variations, especially in getting to terms with intimacy. And variation can easily and delightfully be achieved by learning new sex positions. Aside from being nothing but frills, positions are a great way of making others feel your love. Changing positions during sex allows the two lovers to play with each other and to find new ways of getting and giving pleasure. If you feel that sex is getting stale, but love is still strong, you must learn some new positions and bring a little variety to the bedroom.
Indeed, getting it right the first time is pretty hard, but trying and failing is not bad if both partners see the fun side. Learning new positions can strengthen the bond between two people.
Think of all the pleasure lying ahead of you, focus on the fact that you are about to enjoy a great night, and never worry that things might turn out wrong. You're just beginning to learn new sex positions, so there's no reason to feel bad over a fumble, especially if the result is mind-blowing. Also, trying a decent number of positions is good to understand how they work. New and fun sex positions allow lovers to play with each other and to find new ways of getting and giving pleasure.
If you feel sex is uninteresting, but love is still strong, you learn some new sex positions and bring a little variety to the bedroom.
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The woman in the top position is the choice of women. she gets direct stimulation of the clitoris and can achieve clitoral orgasm easily. Women have greater control in this position. Men find the stimulation less intense so that they can delay ejaculation. His hands are free to stimulate her clitoris or breasts.
The woman in the top position is probably the best for clitoris stimulation and direct contact. If greater stimulation is needed, there is a cream called Vigorelle that the woman can gently apply to her vaginal area or clitoris for greater sensitivity, thus a more intense orgasm. Women claim that this produces a tingling and warming sensation which had helped them achieve orgasm when it was difficult before.
How it's done: She should lie down on the bed on her stomach, with her legs straight and slightly apart. You (the man) then sit right behind her with your legs in front of you and your hands on either side of your body supporting you. You then lean back, joining your genitals with hers. Bring her legs together for a tight fit as you rock back and forwards. Her elbows should be with her arms in front of her for leverage.
What will it do for her? If she likes to be dominated, this is her position. You can move your penis freely, allowing her to feel all the pleasure.
What will it do for you (the man)? You can take full charge with this position and get a front-row view of her rear. You can take it at your own pace and move as fast and hard or as slow and gentle as suits.
How it's done: She should lie on the bed with a pillow under her head, bringing her knees up to her breasts with her legs crossed at the ankles. You (the man) kneel in front of her, lean in and pull her hips onto your lap. Keep her thighs glued together and gently press her feet against your chest for support as you enter her.
What will it do for her? This is a great position to allow her to clench her pelvic muscles, ensuring deep tighter penetration.
What will it do for you (the man)? While she grabs your bottom, she can pull you into her for deeper penetration taking your whole package inside her. This position is intense and will have both your fluids flowing.
How it's done: She should lie face-up on a table, desk, or other raised, hard surface with her hips perched on edge. Raise her legs to a 90-degree angle. You (the man) will be standing in front of her holding her ankles. Spread her legs wide open while you enter her. Next, you alternately cross and spread her legs like scissors, opening and closing as you thrust.
In The Female Superior Position, she lies on top of the man with her legs on the outside of his legs. Her body is parallel with his, and she can move around and manipulate his penis, getting into areas he would never be able to do if he were on top. While on top, she can kneel, squat, or sit on his erect penis. When she sits on his erect penis in this position, his penis penetrates very deeply and can almost always make the woman achieve an orgasm.
In this variation, she can sit on you using her hands to push herself up and down as she faces your feet. She also has the option to ease back close to your chest with her legs together. You can experiment with these different variations to find each other's g-spot.
How it's done: You need to be leaning back onto a high-backed chair with a cushion/pillow behind him. Firstly she should sit above your lap with her hands clasping the chair to support her. Then one leg at a time, rests her feet on your shoulders. Then she should use her bottom to move back and forth on your penis.
What will it do for her? This is an intimate position where you can watch each other's bodies, keeping eye contact.
What will it do for you (the man)? Although she controls the movements, so the thing she can do to stop you from coming is to jump off. You might not be able to control yourself as you watch her in full action.
How it's done: You (the man) sit on the floor with your hands behind you resting on the floor, your knees slightly bent, your legs splayed open.
Keeping her hands on the floor for support, she faces you, then straddles your lap, raising her legs, so her legs rest on your shoulders. Now she rocks back and forth gently, keeping your bodies close together, so your penis doesn't slip out.
Known as the missionary position, this position is the most commonly used in the world and has plenty of advantages for both men and women. In this position, a man can dominate the woman; at the same time, the woman may like to be taken by the man. There are many variations to it.
This unusual aggressive position can excite your sex life. In the "standing up" position, this is done by the man and woman facing each other, arms wrapped around each other, usually her arms around his neck for support and her legs around his waist. While in this position, she can move about slowly, or he can lead the movement.
Rather easy-going and not too tiring for lovers. This is because neither has to support the other's weight. This position is useful during the last few months of pregnancy and for people who are greatly mismatched in height and weight. Women like it because afterward, you can fall asleep together. In this position, the man and woman face each other (cheek to cheek), her legs bent up, so her feet are close to his backside. This is similar to the missionary position, but the couples are on their sides.
This is an excellent morning sex position. She lies on her back, and you lie beside her on your side. She raises her leg, and you pass your leg (the same she raises is the same leg you pass across her) between her, making a scissors effect with your legs and entering her vagina from the side. Both of you can move around freely and not get tired.
The riding high position involves the man riding high on his partner's pelvis during intercourse and applying direct and continuous pressure on her clitoris. It is originally called the coital alignment technique. It is extremely effective for women who have trouble reaching orgasms.
Start this position using the basic missionary position. After the penis is inserted, demand raises his pelvis over hers so the base of his penis is in direct contact with her clitoris. He then lowers his chest onto her torso, taking the weight off his hands, as she wraps her legs around his thighs and places her ankles on his calves. He moves slowly up and down (not in and out), building up to climax.
The Rear Entry position, also called "doggie style," is a favorite among sex enthusiasts. This position dates back thousands of years. It does have one advantage and one disadvantage - the advantage is because of the angle and the depth of penetration, it is an excellent way to reach the G-SPOT. The disadvantage is that it's sometimes difficult for the little guy to keep his penis inside her, and there is no direct clitoral stimulation.
Rear Entry Sex Position involves the man kneeling behind her as she is on all fours using kneepads or pillows placed under the knees. The most common body position is the man and woman have similar body positions, in other words, bodies as close together as possible.
Sitting Sex Position is excellent for the experimental in mind. These positions are excellent for males because it's not too strenuous and can help delay ejaculation. The best way to perform this sexual position is on a chair.
This favorite is a remarkable position because it allows you to sustain intercourse for what seems to be forever and usually controls climax. Use this position when you have a lot of time on your hands. When done properly, couples have experienced multiple orgasms and have even extended orgasms far beyond the norm!
To implement this sex position... sit facing each other with the penis inserted. Both of you should have your legs partially extended. Now, clasp your hands and move them to the sides of your bodies, careful not to hurt yourselves. Now lay back as far as you can and look up towards the ceiling. At this point, both of you are joined only at the hands and genitals. With little movement, you can sustain pleasure for quite a long time.
What will it do for her? This is guaranteed to hit her g-spot, giving her an instant orgasm.
What will it do for you (the man)? You get to watch the action. Seeing her orgasm can guarantee that you will soon be following.
What will it do for her? With the alternating of tightness and wideness, she will feel deepness when she has wide legs, feels her vagina wrapped around her penis, and when her legs are crossed again. This is an instant orgasm position.
What will it do for him? You will feel the same feelings as her but have a better advantage of taking it at your own pace.
How it's done: You (the man) sit on the floor, your arms supporting your weight behind you, your legs stretched out in front of you. She sits on your lap with her back to you, bends her knees, spread her legs, and keeps her feet flat on the floor. She should squeeze her PC muscles while you make small circular rotations with your pelvis.
What will it do for her? She is in full control, allowing her to go as fast or slow as she likes and can take you as deeply as she pleases. Your tongue also has access to her neck and the top of her spine.
What will it do for you (the man)? You can relax while she takes full control, and we all know that we like to be led now and then. Her hands are also free to stimulate your testicles and massage your thighs.
How it's done: She should lie on her side with you (the man) behind her so that her back is pressed against your chest. Raise her top leg so you can position your body into her (as in a side kneeling position) with your leg in between her legs, entering her from behind, leaving your hands free to caress each other's bodies.
What will it do for her? With this position, she can go as slow or as fast as she likes, and with your hands free to stimulate her clitoris, it won't be long before she's coming.
What will it do for you (the man)? You can caress her whole body while pulling yourself hard into her, and if she clenches her buttocks while you are inside her and hold you into position, you will be able to feel her vagina wrapped tightly squeezing your penis; this will send you wild.
How it's done: Place the pillow/cushion on the floor. She should kneel with her arms crossed in front of her, resting on the pillow.
She should rest her head on her arms and lift her bottom in the air. You (the man) should stand behind her and lift her legs by the ankles until her body is almost perpendicular to the floor. Now you can enter her vagina from behind.
What will it do for her? This position is guaranteed to hit her in spots she didn't even know existed, sending tingles throughout her whole body.
What will it do for him? This allows you to use your entire penis. The feeling of her whole vagina wrapped around your penis will have you screaming with ecstasy.
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